Wednesday, September 12, 2012

It starts with wives

Wives, or soon to be wives, there is something that I have been realizing a lot lately. Men have no idea how much influence we play on who they are and how they act. At first this idea was a little overwhelming, the fact that how I relate to my husband pretty much determines his mood and his outlook on life. but then I started thinking it could be really beneficial for our family.

Titus 2:4-5 states that women should be self-controlled, pure, work at home, kind, submissive to husband

when I am positive and encouraging to my husband he is more confident and more positive himself. When I am negative and always complaining I can start to see him become more negative and his motivation starts to diminish. This is why it is so important to be Christlike and to show respect and a positive attitude toward our men. But I must admit I fail often in this area and my family suffers for it.

A caution to this is we have such an influence on our husbands but they don't realize it, it is hard for them to adjust their attitudes if we don't adjust ours. We also influence their decision making. If we push too hard in one direction they may choose that way but it may not be the best for the family. Make sure you are only giving input and HE is making the decision. "It is better for a man to lead poorly then for a women to lead well" - Debi Pearl.

I found myself in this situation a lot, pressuring Thomas to make a decision and in the end it wasn't the best for our family. We need to trust our husbands and pray they choose correctly which is very hard for a controlling personality like me.

I always wonder how many problems in our marriages could be solved by a wife maintaining a positive, loving attitude, obedience to her husband, not controlling situation and having humility, having the ability to be wrong or even to be right but he decides to go the other way. This is a hard and often challenging realization, but I think it will only make our marriages stronger and happier in the end. Besides don't you want a happy and positive husband?

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Captive to Christ

"Make every thought captive to Christ." 2 Cor 10:5. As a mother and a wife sometimes I find myself going throughout my day so engrossed in my duties that I forget to honor God in them and I forget to praise Him for my blessings, especially when it is a busy day or I don't feel good. I was conflicted about this and was wondering how I could remember to be an example of Christ that my children can aspire to be. How do I take my thoughts and make them captive to Christ? Here are a few things I thought would help;

-get rid of meaningless worldly things (television shows)
-read my Bible in the morning (with my children)
-listen to praise music throughout my day
-do everything without grumbling or questioning (Phillipians 2:14), I find this one especially hard when my husband tells me to do something I don't really want to do.
-don't be that women who gossips and slanders, especially when it is disguised as a prayer request
-do the duties that God has designed for me, like being a help meet for my husband and a mother who instills godly values in my sons and has patience to treat them with respect and discipline to train them in the ways of the Lord.

Sunday, April 29, 2012

Maui trip, Day 9

We are leaving today, so sad. It has been a blast though. We went shopping at front street again an ate at the yummiest burger place again. We had to go back to the condo after and packed all our junk up again and try to fit everything into our suitcases. On the way to the airport we stopped at the best pie place ever. It was so amazing I would come to Maui again just for the pie. We have to drop the car off at like 650 and then wait for like 3 hours for our flight, but this might be fun. I am just so excited to see our boys. Yay I miss them so much.

Maui trip, Day 8 - Dinner Cruise

Super chill day. We all got up late and went to Lahaina and the boys went surfing while Mandy and I laid on the beach and tanned ad relaxed in the water. Once the boys were done we came back to the condo and got ready to go on a dinner cruise.

I was a little worried I would be sea sick but I did pretty well. We got to see the sunset and eat good food. After the cruise Thomas and I both got tattoos, I got a leaf on my wrist and he got a tribal design on his shoulder it looks super cool, pictures to come soon. Overall it was a very nice day.

Maui trip, Day 7 - Zipline

Today was so cool. We woke up late because we were all so tired from the ride the day before. We ended up going to a place called Cheeseburger Paradise which was absolutely amazing, everything about was amazing. Then we dropped Jo and Mandy off at the condo and we took off to Mt. Haleakala to go zip lining. It was so flippin fun, Thomas took a video that I will try to post to Facebook soon.

That night Thomas and I got to go on a date on Front Street. We went to a fun upbeat restaurant called Longhis and ate way to much yummy food.

Oh and the picture below is a cool cruise ship that was docked outside our window for a few days.

Maui trip, day 6 - Road to Hana

Well today was insane, there is no way that I will be able to talk about everything I did. We all started the day early at about 6:00 am. We packed up and headed out to ride the road to Hana on the motorcycles. It was so beautiful and there was so much to see. What could have been a 2 hour drive ended up taking us 10 hours. Then when we got to Hana we decided to keep driving and go all the way around the island which took another 5 hours and pouring rain. It was so cold and we were so tired but it was totally worth it.

Everything was amazing and we saw a bunch of waterfalls and cool views of trees and mountains. The bad thing though was my butt hurt so bad after about 12 hours and it was absolutely killing me by the end, I could barely walk. Right after we got back we went to the Ritz-Carlton and snuck into the hot tub to soak our muscles and relax then we went to bed and slept forever.

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Maui trip, day 5

Well today was cool and relaxing. I was still kind of sick in the morning so I slept a lot. When I finally woke up Thomas and I went on a walk down to the beach by our condo and just hung out there for a while relaxing. We got some pretty cool pictures too. We decided to head back and made our lunch at the condo and then walked to Whalers Village, which is kind of like Pier 39 in SF. We walked around there for a whole and then found some pretty cool pools at the Westin.

On our way back from the village we dropped the boys off to pick up the Harley's for the ride up Hana tomorrow. So much fun, they ended up taking us to dinner on the bikes to a place called Duke's and we got to watch the sunset and eat über yummy über expensive food. Tried lobster for the first time super yummy.

After dinner we "snuck" into the Westin and went swimming in their pools. Fun ad relaxing.

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Maui trip, day 4 - Snorkeling / Wedding

Today was crazy, lots of new things and super fun. We woke up at around 5:15 and went on a catamaran out to a place called Molokini and turtle town to go snorkeling. I am kind of afraid of the ocean so it was hard for me to look under the water for the first time , but once I did it was amazing, we saw lots of fish and turtles that came right up to us. The first pair we saw were "hugging." The water was pretty warm but by the end it made our body temps drop and we got cold. The boat was pretty awesome too, they had a slide to go off into the water and one of the workers on the boat named Chris was pretty cool, we ended up meeting him after for a drink and talked for a while. He told us some cool places we needed to check out.

Then we got ready and went to
Kelly and Martins wedding which was so beautiful, I got super sick though from the boat ride and ended up leaving early and sleeping for the next 12 hours so not much happened tonight.

Monday, April 23, 2012

Maui trip, day 3

We started the day a little late today, Thomas and I went to a local farmers market and got lots of yummy fruit like pineapple and these things called apple bananas, they look just like little bananas (curious to try one). Right on the corner was a coffee place called "bad ass coffee" which we had to try and was delicious, taking some dark roast home for the parents. Our plans for the rest of the day were to go to a beach called "big beach," creative name right?, but it was pretty stormy and cold outside, so we ate some breakfast burritos and then drove to another closer beach hoping it would get better outside and of course it did . It was a lot of fun.

Tonight we are going to a BBQ with my friend Kelly who is getting married and have not seen for a few years and my friend Ashley, shout out to St. Phil peeps. I think we are going snorkeling tomorrow morning which will be a first for me. Lots to do and so little time to do it.

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Maui trip, day 2

Well we made it here in one piece. 15 hours of travel and 3 plane rides later we finally made it to our condo, which is super amazing. It was dark on the drive so we woke up to a beautiful view of the ocean and island. I have never been to Hawaii so this is all a new experience to me. I didn't really feel like there was much difference than our oceans until today when we went to the beach. the water was warm and shallow.

The funny thing to me is the weather, we woke up to sun and then half hour later it was pouring and a beautiful rainbow (Glennis I guess I have seen your rainbow). I am excited about the rest of the week and I will post picture of our adventures.

We went shopping today in Lahaina and spent hours going over possible things to do and getting prices for everything, seriously Hawaii is expensive but I think it will be super fun. I'm excited!

Friday, April 20, 2012

My Journey as a Help Meet

I started this blog as a way to write about my journey through this time in my life. Thomas (my husband) and I are learning so much about God and his word. We recently came across this book called "created to be a help meet" by Debi Pearl, thanks to my friend Mandy, and it has changed our lives so much. This book talks about what God says about being a wife and how to live out our calling as women, and how the world and the church often lie to us about what our roles actually are. 


I find myself happier and more focused on my family and my husband especially. I wanted to write about my journey through this book and the specific things that have changed me. I am so excited to share this with you all because I know that God has a plan for all wives and mothers to be who they were created to be and to be a help meet for their husband.